Addiction: A Guilford Family's Story
A big increase in opiate overdoses nationwide has focused attention on substance abuse. Nine out of ten adults suffering from addiction said they began using drugs or alcohol when they were adolescents.
In the first of a three-part series on youth battling addiction, WNPR introduces you to the Harmons of Guilford.
"I don't think we realized what a serious problem it was until he nearly died."
The walls in their home are covered with family pictures. Mary Harmon looked at a photo hanging in the front hallway. She pointed out each of her eight children standing near the Guilford docks.
"This is Katherine," Harmon said. "We’ll go in age order. Mary Kim, and then Mark, and then Emma, Claire, Molly. This is Elizabeth, and Tim. We have two boys, and six girls."
The Harmons call their youngest Timmy -- he’s 20 years old now. His siblings doted on him from the day he was born. Their other son, Mark, rejoiced when he learned he was no longer the only boy in the family. They describe many happy memories in their home, and some sad.
It was the fall of 2011 when the family was confronted with a new challenge. Mary Harmon is a nurse, and had gotten up early one day to go swimming before heading to work. She said, "I heard something I had never heard before in my home. It was coming from Tim’s room, and I heard this very terrible bubbling noise, with groaning."
Harmon recalls how ashen Tim looked, and how she went into autopilot, immediately beginning CPR. One of her children called 911. The paramedics arrived soon after, and were able to revive him, and take him to the hospital. When they got there, Harmon remembered her nursing supervisor meeting them at the door.
Harmon said, "Timmy had coded again. He had died again. And she said, 'Do you want to be with him?' I said, 'Yes.' She walked back into the room, and she brought me to him. He had been intubated, and they were pushing drugs to try to get a pulse back, and a blood pressure. I held his hand, and said, 'Tim, it’s not time to go, it’s not time to go. It’s Mom, and we need you back with us.'"
Tim told her later that he had heard her calling him back. He spent a few days in the ICU, recovering fully. That’s when the tough conversations began.
Tim's father, Justin, said, "I don’t think we realized what a serious problem it was until he nearly died."
The Harmons had heard that members of his swim team had been experimenting with drugs. "We thought he was experimenting," Justin Harmon said. "We believed it was at the level of marijuana. In fact, it turned out he lost inhibitions with using marijuana, and he would then experiment with much more dangerous drugs."
Tim Harmon said he remembers feeling good when taking a prescription painkiller. He recalled, "I actually remember when I broke my ankle getting prescribed Percocet, and really liking that, how it made me feel."The National Institute on Drug Abuse published a study that lists where youth get prescription drugs. Many get the drugs from prescriptions, but most are given by a friend or relative.
Tim said he started using marijuana in the summer before ninth grade. After meeting his best friend, who he called the "biggest pothead he knew," he said they smoked daily, and often.
"I’d get to school at 7:30," Tim said. "School started at 8:00. We’d cruise around the parking lot and smoke, and be high for the first half of the day. As soon as school let out, [we'd] do the same thing. Then, 20 minutes before swim practice, we’d do it again. And if I had anything left, I would do it when I got home.”
On the day he overdosed, Tim Harmon remembers snorting two morphine pills, and then he smoked pot. Later, he met up with a friend, and they took K2, or spice -- synthetic marijuana. Before he went to sleep, Tim took more morphine.
Looking back, Tim said many of his classmates used marijuana, or did other drugs. He said he used drugs to deal with stress.
When Tim's parents sent him to get treatment after the overdose, he was quick to deny he even had a problem. He said, "They hinted I was a drug addict. I thought that was garbage. I didn’t believe them. I was just a kid that liked to smoke weed, and get high, and do other things that made me feel nice. But within two hours of being home, I got high.”
This wouldn’t be the last time Harmon went to a residential rehab program.In our next story, the Harmonsshare how they found help for their son at one of the only adolescent treatment facilities in the state.