To Guilt, Or Not To Guilt? A Social Dilemma
Guilt. Ah, yes, that awful, anxiety-ridden five-letter word. Most of us have experienced it. All of us have learned to dread it. But is a little guilt really such a bad thing?
This hour, we consider that question and more with a series of guilt (note we did not say “guilty”) experts. We check in with a researcher at the University of Virginia and with a psychologist based in New York. And we want to hear from you, too.
When was the last time you felt guilty? How did that feeling impact you?
- Dr. Amrisha Vaish - Assistant Professor of Psychology and director of the Early Social Development Lab at the University of Virginia
- Guy Winch, Ph.D. - Licensed psychologist and author of several books, including Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts (@GuyWinch)
The Atlantic: When Guilt Is Good - “Vaish is one of a number of scholars studying how, when, and why guilt emerges in children. Unlike so-called basic emotions such as sadness, fear, and anger, guilt emerges a little later, in conjunction with a child’s growing grasp of social and moral norms. Children aren’t born knowing how to say “I’m sorry”; rather, they learn over time that such statements appease parents and friends -- and their own consciences."
NPR: Is It Possible To Put A Band-Aid On A Bad Feeling? - "Psychologist Guy Winch makes the case for practicing emotional hygiene -- taking care of our emotions with the same diligence we take care of our bodies."
Chion Wolf contributed to this show, which originally aired on April 26, 2018.